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Aliah mcm phm but here's an advice to a friend =)
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Ola Geng!
here's some word of advice to my dear friend.
Nope..no names shall be mentioned here.
She's facing a typical problem with her boyfriend...
Senang kate gini k gerl..
Read up..

Basic role of every relationship:
Should always always..
Care for the person like how you want the person to care for you..
Love a person like how you want the person to love you..
Treat the person like how you want the person to treat you..
n lastly..be true to the person like how you want that person to be true to you..

Its simple as that my dear..
Just think about this for a minute or two..
How do people end up as a attention seeker in a relationship?
easy! it's because of what they've been given back in return.
which is something i've been tryin to say to you my dear..
people's negative responds can lead to depression.
it can also lead to hatred..
the mind is like telling u..deng..i've never done that to you..
why the hell do you have to treat me like this..
then for sure 100%..u can even bet with me on this fact that...
you will act differently towards that person..correct me if i'm wrong lah k..
it's all because of the way that person responds and treats you.
this is all basic facts my dear..

U've always been true to him..
u tell him everything..
u don expect things in return the same way but at least some consideration..
den in the end..u get something you have never done to him or expect to happen..
a third party yang tak perlu...and u guys keep fighting about it?
come on lah babe...
wake up n ask yourself...
why is he being so defensive over some gerl he just knew from his camping trip?

Wanna know one fact about defensive?
here's a good one..
i believe..people tend to be defensive over a matter n keep bragging how wrong the person is..it's because they just cant accept the fact which is clearly written down that they are in a wrong.
just go think about what i say to you..
really dear..there's only two types of people in the world..
the one's who defend themselves because we're accusing of such things which is not true n they will surely lay out proof..
and the one's who can not accept the fact that they did something wrong to u n keep defending no matter how true it is and keep saying you're just making an excuse..
all this is basic facts my dear..
and its a very typical situation in every relationship..
trust me..you're not alone with this kind of situation..
i have a few friends with the same things..

Here's a solution for you...
can not promise it'll help coz different people different mindsets and all..
but just try k..
try talking things out with him like mature adults..
please don ever bragg about it if you both have not get things settled face to face.
be honest in what you think and how you feel..
the main idea is not to make him feel guilty of his actions..
or even ask for some sympathy what so ever..
but to make him understand your reactions and responds..
n you should try asking him questions you're curious about..
that really helps to understand each other better..
all the best my dear!

Quote by me,myself n i:
*Having misunderstandings is one way of building a better understanding*

Regards,
Aloya Adam..
*your so called love doctor*
=p

Posted by Siti 'Aliah =) at 5:01 AM |

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